Single in Cville
Last weekend I attended The Black Love Symposium: The State of Black Love in Charlottesville. The event was sponsored by the Black Professional Network of Charlottesville and included a panel and group discussion of married and singles about the advantages and challenges of married and single life in Charlottesville, VA. It has been 9 months since I moved to the this small college town and I can tell you about some challenges a single black woman in Cville! While I’ve met plenty of black women, I have no idea where all of the black men are hiding. On most days cuddling up to my body pillow every single night doesn’t bother me at all. But during February, the month of love, my lack of love was staring me in the face at every turn. Even at the grocery store…I just needed milk!
Compliment Not Complete
At this stage in my life, I have the education, the career, financial stability, and even the kid. I’m not necessarily looking for someone to complete me, I’m already a whole d*mn women! I’m not even sure if I want to be married, well at least a few years ago I was still unsure…Love and Marriage. I am a Christian and I do believe fornication is a sin, but so is cursing and drinking. I want a life partner who shares similar values and can compliment the great women that I already am. Yes, I have a checklist of non-negotiable items (less than 10) but I also have a wish list…dimples and/or a great smile. But in the meantime, I just need a date! I need a reason to get dressed up and put on my favorite lip gloss.
There was so much wisdom shared during the Black Love Symposium from both the married couples and singles. But I was disappointed in the single brothers who weren’t there (kudos to the 3 single brothers I counted). PLEASE come out of hiding, there are plenty of single black women in Cville ready to meet their king.